defining success

Here’s Why Success Shouldn’t Be Your No. 1 Priority

I talk a lot about success. It’s a major theme in my book. It’s an important focus of the coaching I offer realtors who are struggling to get to the next step in their careers. Success is important, but if it’s your only priority in life, you could be setting yourself up for failure.

I know that a statement like this coming from someone like me may leave you scratching your head. But there’s a good reason I’m making this claim, and it comes down to the way we define success.

Earlier, I shared a post about How to Find Your Definition of Success, which explored both how we define success and how we get there. While everyone has a unique perspective on what success means to them, it’s typically synonymous with reaching goals, both in our business and personal lives.

Of course, goals are important. They keep us moving forward, and they give us something to aspire to. But if we’re too focused on reaching those goals, and our happiness is too heavily tied into that achievement, we may find our day-to-day lives unsatisfactory—maybe even unhappy. If we’re always reaching for something else, it’s hard to enjoy where we are right now.

In the previous post, I talked about the importance of setting realistic goals. If your idea of success is being a billionaire, but you’re making $50,000 a year, you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment. Choose goals that make sense for where you are in life while recognizing that you can always reach higher. It’s important to reevaluate your goals every now and then, too.

Goals help us grow, and having a clear definition of success motivates us to keep moving forward. But these aspirations are useless unless we’re in a healthy place mentally and physically. That’s why self-care should be your first priority. Because if you’re not taking care of yourself, you will struggle to operate at your full potential, and you will struggle to find success.

Prioritize your health, and you’ll be much better situated to achieve the success you’ve been reaching for. Take the time to overcome any mental roadblocks that have been holding you back. Invest effort into the relationships that matter most to you, and take a step back from the ones that are toxic. And take time for yourself, too. When you’re in a good place personally, you’ll discover the strength you need to find success.

There’s the possibility within all of us to change our lives and realize our full potential. For more on my philosophy of personal transformation and accountability, grab a copy of my book, The Reward of Knowing.